"Why are you still friends with your ex boyfriends?"

This is one of the most frequently asked question. People asked me how am I able to continue being friends with my ex boyfriends and let me just start by saying, things are not exactly the same anymore. People asked me this because they often ship me with friends that they saw me hanging out with, and I will say things like, "nah, we have tried, didn't work out because we weren't compatible". My friends will then look extremely enthralled and say things like "how the hell you befriend your ex boyfriend?" Well this blog is all about it then.

I decide to write a blog about this because last night my sister asked me the same question and I realise that I actually have a quite a fair share to say.

Not for all relationships.
Need I say more? This is self explanatory. When your relationship was like a roller coaster with tonnes of negativity and toxic mindset or behaviour, obviously after the relationship ends with a quarrel or a fight it is best to stay away from your toxic partner and refrain from talking to him/her let alone being friends. Who are you kidding? Do you want him/her to start talking shit to your mutual friends on how bad of a partner you were to them even if it isn't true? Obviously no right? Kick him/her out of your life if possible.

It is in relation to your mental age. (Maturity)
Who said you can't be in a relationship with people you have dated? This is all about you, your mentality. How mature you are. As you grow older you will come to a point where you realise that it is normal for relationships to just don't work out. Maybe neither one of you are at fault. You guys just ain't compatible. This is where you have to consider if do you still want that partner to be around in your life. Is he/she worth it to continue being your friend? Do you guys really have to end up being strangers that knows one another's secrets? Well sometimes a couple is better off as friends because they look so good and happy without all the commitments yet look so bad with all the relationship status causing them to think that they shortchanged their partner leaving them with a whole load of stress and doubts. Therefore, ask yourself if you are fine with having your ex partner as your friend. Do you still want them around? Are you guys better off as friends?

Things are not exactly the same anymore.
Of course to some of you things are exactly the same but to me, it isn't. I will think of how we used to tease one another, how we used cute pick up lines on one another, how he used to carry my things for me, the way he hugged me and pampered me like as if I was a princess, how he held my hand out of the blue, how he surprised me, how sweet he was to me and how he cared for me even when I wasn't sick or anything like that. Well this is then I have to decide. Would I rather, 1) lose him and avoid the awkward moments where I reminisce of how cute we were together or 2) embrace the awkwardness because I still want him as my friend knowing that I cherish him a lot as a friend and wants him around in my life. It takes time to completely allow the feelings to fade though, so don't blame yourself when you realise that you can't just make him your friend all over again like as if the entire relationship didn't even begin.

It depends on your ex boyfriend as well.
If your ex partner was a childish person don't bother trying to be friends with him/her. Your ex partner will literally be exceptionally salty about how things ended and refuse to be a genuine friend of yours.

It is okay if you guys cannot get back on track.
It takes time. A lot of time. I took 2 whole years to be able to stop caring on what my ex boyfriend posted on his social media platforms. I missed him every single day and thought of so many flaws of mine that made us not work out in the end. Now that he is in a new relationship, I have managed to not care as much as I previously would or to cry seeing him hold/hug that new girl of his. It wasn't easy but don't give up. Tell yourself that you deserve better even if he was the best you have ever met. Now, that partner and I are friends. Oh well I am not entirely over him but at least I don't care as much as I would.

I just want to say that it takes time for things to heal and to go back to normal. But never lose hope, tell yourself that you deserve better. Love yourself before you love others. If you have been a toxic relationship that did not turn out well, don't you ever dare blame yourself. Take it as a lesson learnt. Learn and grow from it. Embrace your flaws and the mistakes you have made. Don't short-change yourself. You deserve so much more than you think. Don't you ever dare give up on yourself because of a rotten relationship.

Forget minoxidil, try procapil with derma pen micro-needling for hairloss treatment

Introduction
I was invited by Xmedicimports to review on the Dermapen Micro-needling treatment with Dermedics MESOHAIR treatment serum. Dermapen micro-needling therapy with Dermedics Meso Hair treatment serum is an excellent choice for hair loss.

In the Dermapen micro-needling procedure, a Dermapen Micro-needle which looks like a pen with tiny needles in the end punctures the scalp multiple times to trigger the development of new follicles as well as to deliver the Dermedics mesotherapy MESOHAIR ampoule into the scalp to nourish and repair the hair follicle. The body then start working to produce new hair follicles, releasing chemicals and growth factors in the process, which in turn stimulates hair regrowth filling up bald areas of the scalp.





About the company
Xmedicimports is a cosmeceutical distributor company supplying aesthetic devices and medical skincare to clinic and salon. They also specialise in Mesotherapy / Microneedling and conducting trainings with Dermedics medical products to clinics and salons.

Here's a video for you to know more about the treatment itself!


My experience
The Micro-needling treatment i received was really comfortable and totally painless. If I did not have to tilt my head every once in a while I might have fallen asleep due to the amount of soothing comfort it gives off. Needless to say, I was overwhelmed by the amount of information provided and I feel that hair loss is a very common thing nowadays especially for girls with long hair that was once dyed and untreated for a very long time.




Dermedics Mesohair was reviewed by Dr Joel Arun as a safer treatment for hair loss as opposed to the commonly known Minoxdil, was is known to have side effects. You can find this review here. Review by Dr Arun - https://xmedicimports.com/#Drjoelreview



Conclusion
My overall experience was really great. The treatment was totally painless and they did a really good job at preventing infection both before and after the dermapen micro-needling. This is really important as infection can also lead to further hairloss and major complications. Taking good care of the scalp routinely should start from young and not wait till problems arise during the later years. I hope that this review can offer solution and insights to people that are having hairloss issues, and those whom are finding replacement for minoxidil.

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My secondary five life

Today's date is 9 February 2018. My secondary school life ended back in 2017. I'm writing about this today because yesterday was the day I received my Olevel courses appeal results. Let's just begin by saying I did not get into the course I would love to be a part of. Regardless, I'm rather thankful as I know a beguiling chapter of my life is about to start in a few months time as April approaches.

Secondary five was a breeze compared to secondary four. You may beg to differ, however my opinion will not be changing. Similar to some of my other blogs, I spent secondary four working hard to catch up with everything taught in school from secondary one to three because I wasted that three years doing everything except staying in class and paying attention. Hence, secondary four was four years worth of studying compacted into 8 months as N levels approach.

Secondary five was disheartening. It was when I realised I don't have many people by my side. Everyone has their "favourite people" in school. Yours may be your classmates, cohort friends, leadership groups or even teachers. Mine? My CCA mates. I walked into the battlefield without them because they are from the express stream which means they took their Os when I was doing my Ns. CCA was weird without them. Imagine having a overly bonded and attached team leaving you alone for further studies, it definitely sucks.

Secondary five was a satisfying year. Achievements? Unlocked! This is the year I rise up as the top 10% in cohort with my preliminary examination results. This means that I'm basically the top four. Well you might beg to differ thinking thay it's easy becoming a part of the top 10% but to me, it's not. Not just that, this year was the year that I was the first in class for several subjects be in physics, chemistry, mathematics, poa or geography. (Those that are not mentioned, obviously I'm not the first.) All in all, I'm just pleased that I managed to do my best and see some of my subjects excelling.

Secondary five was a heartening year.
This year, I did more voluntary work than the previous years. Yes I do sign up for voluntary work whenever I have the time to but my June holidays were really packed this time round as I registered to do a lot more be it playing games with the elderly, helping the less fortunate to sell their merchandise and even sending food to the pioneer generation.
I also managed to teach a lot of my classmates and juniors as I reach out to them and "tutor" them by helping them with the questions they couldn't do. I feel rather contented seeing them finally memorizing the things I have been trying to drill into their heads and running towards me with sparkles in their eyes after the papers telling me that they managed to attempt the questions that were similar to what I have taught them.
MUCH MISSES.

Secondary five was intensive.
Due to being nominated as a part of the games team for my zone's emerge youth camp, my team and I was given a few months to prepare games for approximately 80 campers. It was tiring, enthralling but very life changing as well as I learnt a lot from the well-equipped leaders and some of my team members that were more experienced. Elated to be a part of the games team and certainly hoping I'll continue being a part of it for as long as can be.

Alright summing my secondary five life up, let's just say that I have lost a few friends but gained plenty throughout as well as becoming more closely bonded to people that I have never expected to bring into my life and becoming an important part in it as well. Regardless, I have learnt many new things through the experiences and opportunities given for me to grasp and I am thankful that each and every one of the events and occasions arose because it was through it all that made me who I am today.
All in all, I just want to thank those that left and those that stayed because I believe everything happens for a reason and wish all you 2017 Os students good luck as your new chapter begins be it in JC, Poly, ITE or any other routes you have planned out for your 2018.

Top three hated teachers

So this blog exist because I did a poll asking my Instagram followers what should the title of my upcoming blog be. ("Top three favourite teachers" or "top three hated teachers")

The voting results are:
Top three favourite teachers 51-voters
Top three hated teachers 73-voters

Here goes nothing. To all my seniors and juniors, if your favourite teachers are mentioned here, too bad because all of us are just humans with different perspectives. I am not going to mention their full names and the school I was in when I met them, purely so that their names won't be completely tarnished.
I'm going to rank them either ways.

In third place, we have Mr Aslam.
Mr Aslam is a Math teacher in my school for just a few months in 2015. He teaches me mathematics when I was in secondary three. My math was really bad at that point of time. Before I even begin ranting, I would like to admit beforehand that I was really bad in Math because the teachers before him already gave up on me.
Whenever I asked him a question because I wanted to try to do the assignments, he simply said "don't bother teaching you already cause you're just going to fail anyways", "don't bother trying you won't pass one" and the list goes on. He then ended up giving worksheets to everyone except me. And when I requested for it he told me he don't want to waste paper so he don't want to give me. Thanks Mr Aslam, you teaching me NA math gave me a 20+/100, Mr Mark replaced you and here I am scoring As in school for my Express stream Mathematics. (Sitting for Os = Express)

In second, here's Mr Chan.
Mr chan is a POA teacher. There are two Mr Chan's in my school. The one I'm talking about is the younger yet uglier one. (No offense.) He likes to use the word "sophisticated" to act profound but actually thats how far his dictionary for his vocabulary can go. I took up POA in 2015, back then I was in secondary three. Literature was my best subject, I wasn't allowed to take it only because I'm in the NA stream. Art was my interest, I can't take it either due to PO. I then took POA.
Guess what? It sucks. I failed every single paper. I tried asking for help. This teacher told me "I last time teach before already go think yourself", "this is basic common sense go figure out yourself" etc. I swear, if I can figure out myself why will I even ask him? What logic. He's completely useless, that's why I hate him. His attitude, his character, his sense of humor, I can't stand any of it.
In the end, the other Mr chan took over in 2017 when I was in secondary 5. He slowly taught me everything from secondary 3-5 cause I really knew nothing. Needless to say, I finally excel in POA.

In first place, its none other than Mr Ng.
When I was in secondary one, this dickhead told demoralized me till I reached the lowest point of my self esteem. He literally shoved all the negativity into me. When the class didn't do his homework, it's okay. If I didn't do his homework, I'll be outside his class or sent to the DM room. Well, he chased me out of the class every lesson even if I got his homework done giving reasons like, your hair is untidy, you're not paying enough attention and etc. He told me, "don't bother, you confirm fail math by the end of this year. I passed in secondary one. He's an idiot. He got so cocky watching me suffer in secondary 1-3 for Math.
Guess what, by the time I hit secondary 5, I scored plenty of As be it common test, class test, mid year examinations and even preliminary examinations. In your face, jerk.

Alright here's the end of this blog. If you guys like any of them and feel offended, sorry but different people has different perspectives.

Biggest regret? (Academics)

My biggest regret was not having any interest to study. I didn't have a dream, neither do I have a goal.

The worst EMb3 in my school yet not retaining is 27. 27 means passing three subjects with grade 5s only(grade 5 is obtaining scores from 50-60), and fail 2 other subjects, (scores between 0-50 are automatically equivalent to grade 6) 5+5+5+6+6=27
Every single year from my secondary one to three, I barely scraped through. And every single year, I never feared to end up retaining. In my secondary 3's mid year, I shamefully scored 28 (passed 2 only) and in end of year, I got 27. Once again, luckily promoted.

I happened to fail both science and mathematics, the most important subjects other than english, in secondary 4, I had to work twice as hard compared to others in order to catch up. I started wanting to catch up because I realise that I have to at least try so that I won't regret with a "useless" future.

As I tried my best catching up, I struggled a lot since I don't have the "foundations" in any of the subjects. All thanks to my form teacher and other few teachers that never give up on me together along with a new supportive bunch of friends, I did way better for my N levels and am currently striving with determination to do well for my O levels!

A few years back, I never wanted to do well. I never knew I could do well either. I lost interest in secondary one because back then, my math teacher looked down on me because of my reputation. He didn't teach me, makes me leave the class, scold me for all sorts of reasons, and basically told me " I bet youre going to fail math" even when I didn't do anything wrong.
My reputation was tarnished because of the amount of times I'm late for school, the amount of disciplinary cases I got myself into for being mischievous, the people around my social circus, so on and so forth.

In secondary two, my principal changed my mathematics teacher 5times, so in a year I have 6 teachers, my entire class failed harmoniously other than those with tuition.

In secondary 3, I wanted to try doing back mathematics since im already like what? 20+/100? That year, my teacher said I have no foundation at all and totally ignored me every time I ask him questions.

Science was pretty bad too. My secondary one and two science results were still rather acceptable, however, in secondary 3, yet again because of my fascinating fantastic records in school, the teacher hated me, chase me out of the class for all sorts of random reasons. I end up leaving the classrooms everytime its his lesson without him asking me to do so. I end up with 30+/100 for science and 20+/100 for math in secondary 3. Needless to say, I lost interest in both math and science.

I did pretty badly in other subjects as well but these were the worst encounters. Anyways, in secondary 4, I met really good teachers and started picking up the foundations I don't have during countless consultations. I started trying my best, people say practice makes perfection. I started practicing, doing more than my classmates. I end up doing pretty decently for my N levels.

Yet again, my regret is giving up on myself when some of my teachers gave up on me. To all those reading this, please dont give up on yourself, and one day, everything will be okay even though it is not for now!! Aim for the As, even if you fail, you'll get a B or a C!! You'll get what you have worked for!!