Routes after N Levels

This is for all the Normal Academic students.

There are 8 different routes that are possible for you to take, I'm just here to clarify doubts and help those that don't know what to do after their Ns.
1) Route 1: PFP
2) Route 2: DPP
3) Route 3: Secondary 5
4) Route 4: Retain
5) Route 5: NITEC
6) Route 6: Private studies
7) Route 7: Go out work
8) Route 8: Overseas
The first five are usually the common ones, there might be other routes that I have yet to mention but this is all I can think of for now.
Here's a short elaboration of each routes in hopes to help you make your decision!

1) Route 1: PFP
If you have done extremely well securing an EMb3 of 5-10points, this route is for you to consider. This route allows you to directly enroll into any Polytechnic courses that is offered to you.

2) Route 2: DPP
If your EMb3 is better than 19, this route is available for you. This is where you will end up with a higher nitec course, it is in ITE. It's where you can secure a spot in poly only if you do exceptionally well. However, it's not really EMb3 better than 19 means can go for it already. Due to higher demands, some popular courses have their EMb3 cut off points differing.

3) Route 3: Secondary 5
This is self explanatory. Complete your Ns, get better than 19, you're allowed to enter. However, it's best if you ask your seniors for advice, many that scored 16-19 for their Ns find themselves suffering during Os. I have friends scoring EMb3 better than me, yet suffering more than me cause they started being cocky about having better results than the majority. As for me, my grades slipped a little. I achieved the same L1r4 for my secondary 5's MYE and Preliminary examinations. But its two points worst than my last year's Ns EMb3.
Didn't regret staying for secondary 5 though. Since I don't even know what I want other than the fact that I want to get into Singapore polytechnic cause its nearer than other ITEs and JCs and also cause I'm only interested in one course and its in SP. Chasing after my dreams I guess? Not so sure about that but I do know for a fact that I've been laid back and slightly complacent ever since I joined secondary 5. It seems easier than secondary 4 so I kind of lackadaisical a little too much. (Sec 4 is harder than Sec 5 only because I missed Sec 1-3 so I need too catch up with everything)

4) Route 4: Retain
EMb3 = 20? It's either retain or go NITEC. Trust me though, new environment may be undesirable, but retaining motivates people to have the tendency to do exceptionally well, hence getting into PFP after they retain. It's about the attitude though, don't get cocky and start to be laid back if you retained. You're just gonna waste the whole year away in the end and that, is pure stupidity.

5) Route 5: NITEC
EMb3 = 20/more than 20. In a matter of fact, many that have their EMb3 15-20+ also choose nitec, why? Cause they know very well what they want. Some went to learn about hair, some went for culinary arts. One of my friends is a 15 pointer, he went for nitec just for the culinary arts course. Amazing isn't it? This is following your passion; your dreams. Many said ITE only stand for It's The End" trust me, it's not the end. I have friends that graduate in ITE only to receive a monthly salary of approximately $7k. It's not about the course of the school you land into or the degree you hold, sometimes, it's purely about your attitude, your mindset, your capabilities.

6) Route 6: Private studies
Rich parents, go ahead. I don't know much about this, but yea, a few of my friends went for it. Apparently they didn't do so well for their Ns so they just went for private studies, thats all I have to say really, I know nothing much about this but I don't encourage people to go for it too, it seems complicated.

7) Route 7: Go out work
Hate studying, stop studying. That's what some did, minority only though, it's not advisable. A 16 years old out for an adventure, in luck? get a good stable job. Bad luck? Screwed.

8) Route 8: Overseas
Rich kids again. None of my friends chose this path though, so I'm not sure about this either. If I know you personally, don't take this route. Not advisable. Purely only because I'm not ready for a long distance relationship with any of my friends.

Well that's all for now. Hope this clarified some of your doubts. Some school doesn't educate anything about the routes, so students just go wandering off like a headless chicken. This is in cohesion to that I guess, to give people a better view of what exactly is going on. Like I've said, it's not always about your education level, it's also about your attitude. Stay smart, stay out of trouble, happy holidays!

Secondary 5 = leftovers?

Life in my secondary school was beguiling w me visiting the DM room during the school curriculum hours more than staying in class.

Either ways, since I didnt learn anything from secondary 1-3, I spent my secondary 4 life catching up w as much as I possibly can absorb and yessa my Nlevels results made it to secondary 5.

I have heard many calling the secondary 5 students "leftovers" since they didn't choose PFP, DPP, Nitec or private studies. Guess what? This post is here to screw all you bitches that believe that secondary 5s are leftovers.
Some of my schoolmates chose to stay for secondary 5 when PFP accepted them because they want the O levels certificate.
Some of my schoolmates (I'm one of them) chose to stay for secondary 5 when DPP accepted them too. Lmao the teacher from the course in DPP even called me to persuade me to think twice about withdrawing from her course because I accepted it before that, thought over it and went to the school personally to withdraw.
So ya bitches stop telling my fellow secondary 5 friends and I that we are the "leftovers" because you are a retard w zero knowledge lmao. I didn't study to pick myself up in my secondary 4 life just to be called as a leftover you mean lil shit, put yourself in our shoes, would you like it if I call you a leftover because you gave up on DPP to stay in secondary 5 cause you know the course you want is in poly?

Ouh btw, here's a long sentence for those in my sec5 cohort.
We've been through many ups and downs, from hating to loving each other, can't believe I'm saying this but I'll definitely miss y'all and all the best for your next chapter ya!! 💓💓

If you're in secondary 5 too and someone has insulted you, feel free to send this to them.

Personal thoughts on Olevels

So I sat for my Olevels this year(2017). It wasn't as scary or as stressful as I thought. In fact, before the start of Os, I started studying studiously. However, as the dates were drawing near, after sitting for the first two papers, let's be honest here, I kind of laid back and didn't study as hard during the period. Either ways, this blog was highly requested with a total of 132 votes for it so here's what I think of each paper.

Mathematics (EMath only)
Paper one nearly killed me but paper 2 was manageable even though I didn't manage to complete the last question which was worthy of 10marks. I did not deliberately memorize any formulas cause I was lazy but thank God because none of those questions that would need the formulas came out. Fingers cross in hopes to get an A2 for this!!

English
Paper 1 was a breeze to me since I have always been doing decently in it. Paper 2 was a little tough while paper 3 and 4 was neutral. Hoping to get a B4 for this!!

Science (Chemistry & Physics)
First three papers were manageable but for the written papers, I can't understand why are the first pages of both SO DIFFICULT. One way or another, science practical was gloriously flunked as I had a lot of trouble cutting the triangle out. (They should have provided the left handers a left-hander-scissors. It does exist and it would have made my life easier. I nearly broke down and give up because of the pain received from cutting w the scissors given.) A2 I hope? Not so sure though, wishing that the bell curve won't have me dead.

Combined humanities (Geography &Social Studies)
This is honestly the only subject that I feel like I have done badly overall. The SEQ choices for social studies was favourable towards me as I happened to only study Venice, 3case studies for D&D, and the 3 examples thingy(misperception of racial and religious riots & external threats) it all came out. I literally gave up on those big chapters that are the more important ones like TT, bonding singapore, governance and  globalisation hence choosing to not study them all, thank God none of those came out. SBQ was done poorly though. I have to say that in my entire life, the SBQ I sat this time round was the hardest. Well I can't seem to understand the sources. Geography is my favourite subject. However, I beg to differ after sitting for the paper. I kind of blanked out during the examination and spent a tremendous amount of time attempting questions only to cancel it all away and to opt for another question. That's it man, leaving it all to God now cause I need combined humanities for my L1R4 to enter the course that I want to since this is a compulsory subject for it. Initially wishing for my usual A2/B3 but I don't even think I can get a B4 now so I'm just here hoping for a miracle.

Mother tongue (Mandarin)
I screwed my oral but did decently for my listening comprehension. My paper one was a little messed up as I couldn't read the question so I wasn't sure of what they want, hence causing me to reluctantly write whatever I could. Paper two was the worst as usual since I can't really read or write chinese characters even though I am able to fluently speak in chinese. I kind of managed to understand the passage given and hence did my paper without much expectations of doing well for it. Wishing for a B3!!

Electives (POA)
Obviously leaving my worst subject for the last. I couldn't answer most of the theory questions and caught myself writing nonsense but in pretty sure I can still pass it because I really tried squeezing my brains for all the creative answers that I can come out with. Honestly I won't be using POA for my L1R4 to enter my desired course so it's all right even if the bell curve made me fail. But I do wish to get a C6 at least.

All in all I just hope that my Olevels L1R4 will not be worse compared to my Prelims and MYE since it's both the same score. Not really enthusiastically hoping my L1R4 to be better than both my Prelims and MYE but to at least maintain the same score so that I can go into my course. These feedbacks may make you feel unpleasant or glad or relieved that I'm doing better or worse than you but it's my opinions after all so don't take it too seriously since such opinions may vary. Certain papers might be exceptionally easy for you but not for me, vice versa.

All the best to you if you are one of those that are waiting for your results as well, may luck be with you!!

5tips for students w examinations

Well I won't deny that there are actually many tips but here are five that I always encourage people around me to use.

1) DON'T EAT TOO MUCH
This is not for everyone but only to those that find themselves sleeping or dozing off during the lessons particularly after recessa countless time. Congratulations, I think you have "food-coma" I don't actually regard it as a symptom but to the people around me, food coma means that you will end up sleeping almost immediately after eating. If you already know for a fact that you are one of those that sleeps uncontrollably after eating too much, refrain from having a hearty breakfast directly before your papers. Option for a meal afterwards or a light breakfast before your papers if you don't want to end up sleeping on your cozy table in the silent examination hall.
Additionally, if you know that you will have to do big business soon after eating, then don't eat too much because you'll end up in the stuffy cubicle panicking instead of attempting your examination papers.

2) DRINK PLAIN WATER ONLY
I'm not even kidding a majority will be able to relate to this. I don't know about you, but I'm that type that consumes a tremendous amount of water. I tend to choose sweet drinks over plain water regularly but I don't have any side effects after that. Many of my friends, however ends up having a sugar rush and feel extra lethargic afterwards. Hence admitting defeat and sleep in the battlefield. (Yes to me examinations are where I fight, well mentally since it is where I end up squeezing every ounce of my brain juice)
Moreover, drinking too much sweet drinks increase the probability of you wanting to use the washroom during your papers, hence minimizing the consumption rate of water will be desirable.

3) BRING YOUR MOTIVATOR
(No please do not bring your boyfriend or girlfriend or idol physically.) Let's be honest here. I don't study for myself. I know it's not right to be studying for some other reasons other than the bright future everyone told me I will have if I do well academically. I bring a photo of that particular someone that will be able to motivate me to press on even if I'm already on the verge to giving up. To me, no doubt will it help me to continue the paper even if it's hard and literally unmanageable.

4) DON'T GET OVERLY COMFORTABLE
Oh dear, sit up straight. Why? Well why not unless you want your face to end up kissing your table as you fall asleep because of how tired you really are. Don't lean on your arm or have your head touching the table. It feels really good to sleep in the examination hall especially when its so silent and the fans are doing a good job in keeping you cool. I don't know if this happens to everyone, but I will definitely doze of if I lean against the table because the papers that I'm attempting are mundane.

5) DON'T ONLY DO LAST MINUTE REVISIONS
Well a number of you may be able to ace a paper purely by having last minute revisions but honestly, it's not an ideal option.
You might end up praying to the bell curve god because of the higher risk of blanking out in the end. Instead of risking it, revise bit by bit. Maybe not daily but at least a couple of times each week so that you will be able to familiarise all the topics tested.

Alright I'm done here, hope this helps and all the best for all your examinations :)

Tips and tricks to study

So are you having problems academically? Here's a few tips hoping to help!

1) do a checklist
Write down all the things that you want to finish doing by the end of the day, and as you've completed it, cross it out! The sense of accomplishment upon crossing out everything asap should be able to keep you going!

2) know yourself
If you're the type that needs to study in a group, go ahead! Text some friends and ask them out w you! If you're the type that needs those examination environment, head to the library or somewhere quiet to study alone.
(Choose the right type of friends though, they might end up turning into a distraction)

3) teach others
Well personally, this definitely works. As I teach others, I end up recapping to teach my friends so its like, a constant form of revision. If the questions asked by your friends are the ones that you can't answer, ask the teachers for help. That way, you'll learn more than what you would have learned if you just on your own and not exposed to other questions.

4) have time management and discipline
These definitely goes hand in hand. Plan your daily schedule and follow it. Be it 5hours or studying and a 1hour break in between or a study every 2hours for 30mins break, plan it yourself and follow it strictly.
(There's no point wasting time to plan but ditching your planner aside its like, then why did you bother to plan in the first place?)

5) consistency
If you're the kind that studies last minute and do well, you can stop reading already! For the rest, when I said consistency, I meant throughout the year or something alone the line. Revise asap whatever your teachers taught throughout the day, if there are any doubts, pester them the very next day. This really helps. Well for me, I'll usually just ask in class if I'm confused, and revise the topics all at once at the end of the week. If I don't know what I'm doing, that's when I'll ask for help! It is very important to revise asap as your brains are fresh from what your teachers had just tried to convey. Inevitably, if you're doing all the revision only 1week before your examinations come knocking on your door, congratulations because the probability of you panicking and getting nothing done is extremely high.
(actually come to think of it, my face will literally show that I'm confused so not often do I have to ask since my teachers will save my ass immediately after they have noticed that I'm confused)

Hoping these help and if you have anymore questions, advices or anything you would like me to blog about next, DM me on Instagram!

EAE- accept or reject?

Are you freaking out because you have no idea on whether to accept your EAE choices or not to? This following blog is here to help (I hope)

Firstly, ask yourself, do you really like the course that was offered for you? If no, reject the course. Secondly, ask yourself, does the course brings you to doing what you want to in the future or did you choose it a few months back just because it is a popular course? If it's purely because its popular and that you have zero interest in it, reject it. Thirdly, ask yourself again, are you able to cope in the course? As in, is it suitable for you? If you know you're not the type that can tolerate sitting in an office from 9am to 5pm and that's one of what the course offers, you may have to reconsider.

Honestly, I got rejected by my first choice. My second choice however, accepted me! Both my first and second choice allows me to be able to help people, and that's all I'm really looking for honestly. However, I am persistent in believing that the first choice will suit and interest me more, hence, I have decided to reject the second choice and take part in JAE; an exercise for me to apply courses based on my own O level's result.

Many told me, "hey don't reject that course, it's a very popular course and many people didnt manage to get in" and also "hey don't reject it, it will lead you to a very good future" but truth is, the whole point of the exercise; EAE is to get your ass into a desirable course of your choice, not plant yourself into a random course just because of its popularity or bright future.

All in all, all these factors are here to persuade you and mind blown you in an enthralling way by psychologically influence you into making choices that you might further regret in the future, hence, think of all the benefits and disadvantages and slowly consider on whether to accept or reject by seeing which eventually outweighs the other. You should ask your parents or teachers or friends for advices as well and take it into consideration too! Either ways, good luck and all the best!

Eww Examinations? Nah.

Have you ever wondered what examinations really are for? Well I mean, whatever we learnt in school, how much of it can really be applied in our daily lives as we enter into a new phrase of life?

Examinations stress people out, not all but plenty. These people tend to refrain from studying and when it is inevitable, they will start panicking because they want to do well but they know they haven't been studying hard enough.
Examinations teach people, similarly, not all but some. Those people tend to learn from their mistakes and ensures themselves to not repeat the same mistakes again.
Examinations are nothing to people, yet again, not to all but several. People tend to think that examinations does not mean anything and are not able to affect any of their future plans, seriously?

So what are examinations? There is no exact answer, but I feel that examinations are just something you'll have to go through to gauge how much you've been learning, or if you've been doing nothing but wasting your time in school.

I tend to advice my juniors and people around me to not start studying just because their examinations are around the corner but to instead, studying consistently bit by bit to refrain from stressing themselves out.
This came to my mind as I have wasted three years of my secondary school life doing everything else except studying. I did really badly in terms of academics and nearly retained. However, I found motivation and started striving for better grades. Wasn't easy at the beginning since the things that everyone knew, I don't.

Through this experience, I realise how important it is to study and don't waste time on the not-so-meaningful events and all.So hey, don't hate examinations and strive for perfection!

Worth the read

Wonderful to read👍👍

A man married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed a skin disease. Slowly she started to lose her beauty. It so happened that one day her husband left for a tour. While returning he met with an accident and lost his eyesight. However their married life continued as usual. But as days passed she lost her beauty gradually. Blind husband did not know this and there  was not any difference in their married life. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.
One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow.
He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave that town.
A man from behind called and said, now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you.
He replied, I am not blind. I was acting,  because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease. So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.

Moral: Sometimes it is good for us to act blind and ignore one another's short comings, in order to be happy

No matter how many times the teeth bite the tongue, they still stay together in one mouth. That's the spirit of FORGIVENESS. Even though the eyes don't see each other, they see things together, blink simultaneously and cry together. That's UNITY. May the Lord grant us all the spirit of forgiveness and togetherness

1. Alone I can 'Say' but together we can 'talk'.
2. Alone I can 'Enjoy' but together we can celebrate
3.  Alone I can 'Smile' but together we can 'Laugh'
That's the BEAUTY of Human Relations. We are nothing without each other.
STAY CONNECTED

QUOTE OF THE DAY
_The razor blade is sharp but can't cut a tree; the axe is strong but can't cut the hair._
   *Everyone is important according to his/her unique purpose. Never look down on anyone unless you are admiring their shoes*.

-extracted from WhatsApp

My life in school

We've all encountered different things and situations, here's a story, my story. (School edition)

When I was in primary school, im often found loved by the people around me. I recall upon having a lot of friends. Because my siblings restricted me from having female friends in my childcare as they think that those girls are of a bad influence, I was forced to be friends with the guys instead. Well, maybe that's how I seem to have a different opinion from most of the girls and am more daring, loud and violent I guess? I brought snails and fishes to school and locked them up in the lockers inside my classroom together with a group of friends, I beat people whenever they try to threaten me or pick a fight. Well I hated my core subject, my mother tongue language; chinese. Jogging on my memory, I remember throwing a completely empty workbook at my teacher when he asked for my homework. Very apologetic for that because he didn't turn apoplectic and instead, somehow became my favourite teachers as the six years pass by swiftly.

In secondary one, I had a very bad anger management problem. I did many unacceptable actions be it not doing homework or being defiance. I was often found hanging around with the seniors that were labelled as bad kids. Nothing much happened in secondary one, just me walking out of class almost every lesson to wander around the school because I was bored. I kind of spent 80% of my school curriculum hours outside of class. Ouh and I have a very bad habit of spinning scissors every where I go since primary school so I was just doing it as usual too.

In secondary two, a group of express students picked on me ( I dont even know them ) because I was friends with one of the bad kids that happened to be one of the express girl's ex boyfriend. I became a victim of cyber bully as they created a whatsapp group just to spam me calling me a bitch, slut, "hongster", and many other terms that are all harsh to the ears to try to discriminate me and hurt me. This ended almost immediately as they decided to approach me one day outside my classroom as I was alone. I felt very disgusted but not a single bit of fear because I was pretty sure at that point of time that if we were to end up fighting, the possibility of me winning will be way higher since im stronger than them even though theyre taller and a bit more bigger in size. One of them shouted my name, when I saw them, I happened to be leaving my classroom to go grab myself some food since it was recess time. I rolled my eyes and ignored them, they told me to stop walking and stand right there as they approach, I didn't obviously, why should I listen to their instructions? They ran up to me and grabbed my uniform, obviously I turned and elbowed her hand off my uniform, as I was about to give them a free massage on their face by punching it or something, the teacher in my classroom shouted at us. OMG I SWEAR I GOT A SHOCK I DIDNT KNOW THERE WAS A TEACHER INSIDE SINCE I WAS THE ONE THAT TURNED OFF THE LIGHTS( guys pls dont use your phones while leaving the classroom you might lock teachers inside by accident) after that day, they stopped harassing me and changed their target. I was then often found strolling around with a group of seniors from the neighbourhood schools of the queenstown district. Just smoking, sniffling glue and all, nothing much. Er but obviously I didn't do any of it w them.

Secondary three was hell. It was just me rushing off to work after school because I had already lost all interest in school since i didnt learn anything much in secondary 1 & 2. In my school, if  you passed only two subjects, you'll have to retain. For mid year I passed only two, and for end of year, I luckily scraped through and passed three. Three as in english, mother tongue and combined humanities, and its all in between 50-59, very bad results. I even obtained like 20+ only for mathematics, why did my mathematics results turned out so badly? Read my previous blogs for the reason.

Anyways, in secondary four, I somehow woke up from my dream land and decided I should do well and get into higher nitec. The cut off point for it was 19 but usually if your score for N levels is more than 15, the possibility of you getting into higher nitec is close to zero. Anyways, I somehow studied and scored 2 As and 4Bs. I was accepted in a higher nitec course but I somehow realise the course that I'm interested in is in polytechnic, so, I moved on to secondary five!

Okay my secondary 5 life is not over yet so I cant do a sums up for that, okay I'm done here, till next time, bye!

Dealing with insults

Well it's okay if both parties are okay with it, like if it's only for fun, yea go ahead. But really, dont start assuming that an individual is stupid just because you are doing better. Be it in terms of academics or hands on activities, so what if you are better for not? There will always be people better than you. Well don't call people stupid because if you really think about it, you're the one thats stupid. Not only do you hurt thag person's feelings, you also, at the same time, jogged on one's memory that you are ryde, disrespectful and arrogant.

All you do is so observe the flaws of others, but little do you know, you have many flaws too. There is no reason why you should go around saying "hahahahh I'm in express stream while you're in normal technical, you're stupid!" Now, get this into your head, so what if someone is doing poorly in academics? Have you ever thought about it thoroughly? Maybe he or she, whoever you just made fun of, is better in sports, cutlery, hands on activities, art, music or any other talents? You have zero rights to be insulting someone.

Dont bother talking sense to fools, they'll only make fun of your words. Dont bother to rebuttal, your counterstatements doesn't matter. Whatever one says about you does not define you, neither should it be acknowledged by you. Ignore its existence, if it isn't true, it does not define you.
^Be it someone calling you fat, skinny, ugly, shitty, lousy, stupid, useless, unworthy, hopeless etc, whatever people say, really should not get into you.(getting into you as in, in your head, your thoughts; to affect your mood/thoughts etc)

Happy or sad, you will still have to call it a day at 12am sharp. So why would you spend seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months, or even years to reminisce about what someone had said to insult you? Wouldn't it be better if you used the time that you took to be upset to go out and have some fun?

Keep yourself around people that brings the best out of you, not the ones that influences you and makes you doubt your own values. You are truly unique, everyone's unique. Be yourself, not imitate others wanting to be perfect, because those flaws and strengths of yours made you you! If there are anyone that are pulling you down, making you upset and all, they are not worth being in your life. Kick them out of your life and stay with the people that makes you carry the best of yourself out!

Be it hundreds of friends or only one, go by the quality and not the quantity. Being famous and popular doesnt qualify you automatically as a happy person. And having only one friend doesnt classify you as a lonely person. So just cherish whoever that truly deserves it instead of caring for plenty that does not deserve anything.

If someone wants to leave your life, let them go. Dont force them to stay, there is no poiny having the body of someone yet not the heart, mind and soul. Maybe that person means a lot to you, but letting go always hurt lesser than holding on.

And this is all I have to advice for now, do share it with your friends if you think they need it!

Do you want a 1000dollar note?

Me: Alright so for example I have a 1000dollar note with me right now, I want to give it to you. Do you want it?
Friend: yea why not?
Me: *crushes the dollar note* do you still want it?
Friend: yea I guess so?
Me: *tramples on the note* do you still want it?
Friend: yesss obviously
Me: why? It's been crushed and trampled
Friend: but the value stays the same.
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Well here my friends, even if plenty doesn't like you, insults you, looks down on you, or bullies you etc, so long your morals are the same, you are still you, those real friends of yours that really want you will still accept you for who you are regardless of any situation you've been in!

Disadvantages of being in a rs

Relationships
Now look, there are no point trying to rush into relationships. There are flaws in relationships too. Lets name some out now.
1) you tend to check your phone continuously to see if they have replied.
2) you get upset when you know he or she is talking with someone else of another gender.
3) youre worried if he or she did eat his or her meals regularly.
4) youre easily distracted.
5) youll feel that youre not good enough if that partner of yours seems to be wealthier, smarter and more popular etc.
6) youll feel that you have many flaws.
7) you care a lot more than what youre supposed to.
8) he or she is able to fluctuate your mood swiftly.
9) everything he or she say or do matters a lot.
10) when the relationship ends youll be super affected.
11) youll be upset every time you guys quarrel.
12) youll feel unworthy when he or she chooses to hang out with others instead.
13) youll expect too much and get disappointed in the end.
14) you might feel like he's/she's the best on earth and be obsessed
15) you cant see his/her flaws.
16) you get upset when he /she is upset.
17) you neglect your other friends because of him/her.
18) youll miss out a lot of fun times.
19) youll have to report whatever youre doing if he/she is super insecure.
20) youll end up quarreling with him/her over the smallest issue.
21) youll feel incomplete if he/she is not around
22) youll get jealous, overprotective, upset, happy so on and so forth without realising.
23) sometimes youll wish youre single because of a little conflict.
24) you might fall in love with others without realising and hurt your current partner.
25) your feelings might fade,
26) his or her feelings might fade.
27) you think about him/her a lot.
28) you will regret for not treating him/her right when you guys end.
29) youll find it hard to move on if you really love him/her.
30) youll find out that you didnt really love him/her if you moved on very easily.

Well there are definitely more but thats all for now, treat your partner well, respect his/her views, cherish all the time you have with one another, have trust and communication in the rs, go through thw thick and thins together, always be there for one another, no secrets no lies, dont be insecure and overly possessive!  Lastly, "if youre not dating to get married, youre dating to break up!"

My definitions of unhealthy relationships

It is not healthy if you demand to meet up every single day even when your partner is not free.
It is not healthy if either you or your partner physically, verbally and/or mentally abuse one another.
It is not healthy if you keep stalking your partners recent text messages; why are you guys in a relationship if you don't trust your partner?
It is not healthy if your partner is not allowed to speak, communicate, look, or mention someone of an opposite sex.
It is not healthy if every time meet also do nothing but make out or/and have sex only.
It is not healthy if you are insecure of your partner's actions.
It is not healthy if the relationship is full of jealousy and insecurity.
It is not healthy if you play hard to get all the time, and make your partner feel like a total sore loser.
It is not healthy if you are texting people of an opposite gender to flirt just to make your partner jealous.
It is not healthy to have mind games in a relationship.
It is not healthy to have secrets in a relationship.
It is not healthy to prioritise your idols over your partner.
It is not healthy to always expect your partner to give in to you.
It is not healthy to expect your partner to love you wholeheartedly when you are treating him/her like trash.
It is not healthy to deny the relationship instead of proudly showing your partner off like as if it is the best thing that has ever happened in your life.
It is not healthy to confess or mention break up texting.

If you're not dating to get married, you're dating to break up.

Ridhwan azman and Nicole choo (a summary of what happened)

So nicole and ridhwan broke up (again) a couple of days ago.

To break things up a little, ridhwan is a youtuber that was once from jianhao tan's youtube channel and a couple of times showcased in movies directed by some singaporeans(etc Jack neo's "ah boys to men"), while nicole choo is a blogger that many talks about ever since she got together with ridhwan.
Nicole choo is pretty much a hot gossip topic at first for wearing push ups that made her chest go from probably a 25inches to like a 35inches or something and also that the thick amount of cosmetics she puts that puts everyone in shock for realising that she is only 17(as of 2016). However, she is very confident and hence many looks up to her for that.

A couple of months back, both nicole and ridhwan lied to everyone viewing their social media platforms that nicole was carrying ridhwan's child, and make a joke later on about teenage pregnancy when they patched back, causing many to hate them.

On nicole choos blogspot, she mentioned
1) both ridhwan and her are soft hearted(self claimed most likely),
2) ridhwan physically abused her,
3) she has been seeing some other guys while they were still together,
4) ridhwan asked girls for nudes.

Let's just be honest here, if they are soft hearted, why would they behave like this to hurt their partner that they claimed they love? Why did nicole cheat on ridhwan? Why did nicole attempted to ruin ridhwan's reputation by hinting that he physically abused her? Why would ridhwan request for other's nudes?

None of them are really so called "soft hearted" Anyways in this case there are actually way too many doubts, and let's just hope that this is not another social experiment to help boost their fame.

P.s. These are of my perspective and I do apologize in advance if some of these are unreliable since I got it from nicole choo's blog.